How stereotyping could actually be good?

Stereotype, or rather stereotyping is often blamed, in articles and essays regarding major issues such as racism, religion or even gender, labelled as a form of prejudice.
Like Muslims were often linked with terrorism, and i believe we all share the same view about female drivers, don't we?
Jokes aside, but stereotyping isn't as evil as others claimed.
It only means making  simplified conceptions of groups based on prior assumption, something similar to what we always say, judging a book from its cover.

Now, despite having a better understanding of what stereotyping is, but it still doesn't have anything that says of it being positive or good.
Well, it doesn't.
But please give me a few minutes and allow me to explain myself further, using an interesting concept that i found online earlier on.

Looking Glass Self.

I believe the picture above has given you a brief idea on what does it actually means.
The looking-glass self is a concept, created by Charles Horton Cooley in 1902, stating that a person's self grows out of society's interpersonal interactions and the perceptions of others.
Which causes people to reinforce other people's perspectives on themselves.
People shaped themselves based on what other people perceive and confirm other people's opinion on themselves.
Charles Horton Cooley summed it up by saying, "I am not what I think I am and I am not what you think I am; I am what I think that you think I am."Meaning a person's behaviour or action could be indirectly led by the other people's opinion of themselves.
And it often varies from time to time, affected by the interactions with different groups of people, mainly because of the different impressions they have of us.
That explains why sometimes we feel that we are not behaving the same way in front of our parents like how we do when we are with our friends or boy girlfriends.

I mean, let's face it.
Deep inside we all want to be acknowledged, to be praised, and to be loved.
As much as we never admit it, we are all trying to live up to the expectations of others, be it the good or the bad ones.
Like, the slowest eater in the group, the one who is always late, and the one who never fails to smile everyday.
But even if you agree with whatever I've said, it still doesn't really give stereotyping a better name, right?

Here's where the transformation begin.

Like a sword, it can both kill and protect.
Let's look at it this way. if everybody is going to be who they think you think that they are.
YOU WILL HAVE THE ABILITY TO CHANGE THE WORLD.let's just imagine this, if we were to start anew, to remove all the negative impressions about certain groups of people.
And instead, believe that every single person out there as if they are good people.
They might just turn out to be really good people.
The ladies might start to be driving as good as Lewis Hamilton too.

After reading this, i hope that we all can start doing our part, by believing that there is a good in everybody out there.
Starting from that teen who just got wasted during the Christmas party. (:

Once again, I appreciate the time taken to read this humble piece of mine.

Signing off,
Sleepy Spidey. (:

ARE YOU NORMAL?

ARE YOU NORMAL?

Seems like a silly question to ask, but may i please ask of just minutes of your time to hear what i have to say below.
If you ever search the definition of normal in the net, which wouldn't be normal for a normal person to do it, the following would be probably what you'll find.

nor·mal (nôrml)
adj.
1. Conforming with, adhering to, or constituting a norm, standard, pattern, level, or type; typical: normal room temperature; one's normal weight; normal diplomatic relations.
2. Biology Functioning or occurring in a natural way; lacking observable abnormalities or deficiencies.
3. Abbr. n or N Chemistry
a. Designating a solution having one gram equivalent weight of solute per liter of solution.
b. Designating an aliphatic hydrocarbon having a straight and unbranched chain of carbon atoms.
4. Mathematics
a. Being at right angles; perpendicular.
b. Perpendicular to the direction of a tangent line to a curve or a tangent plane to a surface.
5.
a. Relating to or characterized by average intelligence or development.
b. Free from mental illness; sane.
n.
1. Something normal; the standard: scored close to the normal.
2. The usual or expected state, form, amount, or degree.
3.
a. Correspondence to a norm.
b. An average.
4. Mathematics A perpendicular, especially a perpendicular to a line tangent to a plane curve or to a plane tangent to a space curve.
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[Middle English, from Late Latin normlis, from Latin, made according to the square, from norma, carpenter's square; see gn- in Indo-European roots.]
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normal·ly adv.
The American Heritage® Dictionary of the English Language, Fourth Edition copyright ©2000 by Houghton Mifflin Company. Updated in 2009. Published by Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved.

I have to admit that i was taken back by the results that i found.
It has definitely brought my English to a complete new level.
As much i have to admit that i wasn't a big fan of the thesaurus, i never knew the normal we use so much in our daily lives actually contains so many meanings.
The power of language, huh?
Never mind about that, let's go back to the main point. Honestly, throughout 19 years of my life. I've always thought that being normal was just, being the usual, default me.
Like for example, feeling so sad to a point that i wanted to die isn't normal, feeling so much physical pain in certain areas isn't normal too.
So therefore, i assume that being normal was just being the normal me, no pain no nothing. If you get what i mean.

But, i guess being normal wasn't just that. It says above that being normal means conforming with, adhering to, or constituting a norm, standard, pattern, level, or type.
As much as I know I'll never win a debate with guy who wrote that down. I'm afraid I have to admit that there are some parts which i don't really agree.
if being normal is conforming with the standard or norm, that what would be the NORMAL normal standard or norm be like?
if killing somebody is legal and common, does that mean you have to kill to be normal?
or if eating through your nostril is common and accepted by the majority, does that mean you would look weird if you continue to chew with your mouth?

I don't get it, I really don't.
Was there really detailed explanation for meeting the normal standard of every single thing, or all these patterns and norms were just simply set by the people who have the biggest say?

Like, if you're still doing the normal things that you're doing right now, and years later the people decided to change their views of it. does that mean you would be abnormal by then?

So, just what is normal?
If you're not being you by trying to fit in, trying to doing the things people are doing, then from some point of view, won't you be abnormal already?
By defying the patterns of your instinct,or your system that has been with your for the same number of years you've been born.

Hasn't that not fail you to be labelled as normal already?

From my understanding, names like 'freaks' and 'weirdo' get really common nowadays,used usually for the wrong reason.
and from what i can see, people are doing a lot, sometimes against their own wishes to avoid being called such names.
i can understand the reason behind it, as i was once like these people.
trying to stay low, trying to dress like all the other teens, trying our best, just to fit it. Many times, this is also made us forsake the gifts or talent that dwell within us.
just to be labelled as NORMAL.

I just wanted to say, to all those who's reading this, if you ever face similar problems trying your best, doing whatever you can to fit in.

Here's something for you guys before i go.
Conforming with the norm, is just a trend. So being yourself is still the best. (:

Lastly, i just wanted to thank you guys for the time taken to read this article of mine. As much as i know my language isn't good enough to be writing, it is really something i wanted to share badly.

Signing off,
Sleepy Spidey. (: